Friend's Cousin

Yep. I got a crush on my friends cousin. Now this is a multi-problem, er, problem. First off, how do I tell my friend without him getting pissed. I talk to the girl in Spanish Class ALOT, and she laughs at my jokes. IDK if she likes me though. If She does, what should I ask her out to? There's absolutely nothing to do in my town. Finally, how would I ask her out? I don't want to do it while there are a ton of people, but I only see her when there are a lot of people around. i.e Class, and in the hallways. What do forum?

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Originally Posted by Wumbo

Yep. I got a crush on my friends cousin. Now this is a multi-problem, er, problem. First off, how do I tell my friend without him getting pissed. I talk to the girl in Spanish Class ALOT, and she laughs at my jokes. IDK if she likes me though. If She does, what should I ask her out to? There's absolutely nothing to do in my town. Finally, how would I ask her out? I don't want to do it while there are a ton of people, but I only see her when there are a lot of people around. i.e Class, and in the hallways. What do forum?

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It's normal. If a girl is hot, or kind, or something just catches your attention. You're in love! I undrstand the multitude of problems your facing, as it happened to me. But if what I did works for you as well, then we might find a solution. Here's how to tell your friend. This is old, but effective. First casually drop the fact into your conversation. Bring up his cousin, and say something like "Ya know. You're cousin's beautiful." Throw in some compliments towards your friend. Then discuss your feelings with him. If he's not into it, tell him that if he was a real friend, he'd be there for you through anything! Just try to let him know. If it worked, great! Let's move on. She laughs at your jokes? That's a good sign. I know how girls are, and they're always looking for a good laugh. So, I think she does like you. I don't know what's in your town, but, if there's a movie, ask her out. Try to watch what she wants. Girls love it when a guy listens to their needs. They eat that stuff up! if you don't have money, just take a stroll through the park with her, or rendezvous in a nice area, or one of your houses. See? There's stuff to do. If you don't want people to hear you, write out little notes, and explain why. Butter her up with compliments. And explain the good qualities of you. Tell her things you would do for her, and that you'll always be there to help. Then nonchalantly slip into asking her out. Good luck! :D

Dude, this isn't as awkward as it sounds, go for it.

Exact same thing happened to me. Only I had a bad outcome but that's because I am me. You seem confident and girls love that. If this is a true friend he'll repsect that and will realize that you like her. Though jokes make be made frequently. Infact when I likes my friends cousin he tried to get me with her. Just bring up what girls are cute and mention it there or something. But go for it bro!
-noremac

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Originally Posted by Guest

Exact same thing happened to me. Only I had a bad outcome but that's because I am me. You seem confident and girls love that. If this is a true friend he'll repsect that and will realize that you like her. Though jokes make be made frequently. Infact when I likes my friends cousin he tried to get me with her. Just bring up what girls are cute and mention it there or something. But go for it bro!
-noremac

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Come on, Noremac. Nothing's bad about you. You're awesome!

1: You don't need your friends permission to date/tap his/her cousin.

2: Take a chance and just tell her "hey, I like you, I'd like to spend more time with you outside of school." Girls really admire courage, bravery, etc...well those that don't chase dick(aka: those that aren't sluts).

3: Alternately, you could ask you "I was wondering, if you like me, as in more than friends?" though this may seem less ballsy.

4: If there is nothing to do in your town, then become creative. Picnic, have a movie night, go out for coffee, etc.

Wow guys, this was actually a lot more helpful than I thought it would be. Now, I keep working myself up thinking "Todays gonna be the day". But at the last moment, I find that I can't do it. When we talk in class I'm pretty confident, and there are no "awkward moments". But outside of class, I turn into a wreck. Like what the fuck?

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Originally Posted by Wumbo

Wow guys, this was actually a lot more helpful than I thought it would be. Now, I keep working myself up thinking "Todays gonna be the day". But at the last moment, I find that I can't do it. When we talk in class I'm pretty confident, and there are no "awkward moments". But outside of class, I turn into a wreck. Like what the f**k?

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Dude, we have the exact same problem. I don't have a "friends cousin", but I do have the confident to awkward switch.

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Originally Posted by Wumbo

Wow guys, this was actually a lot more helpful than I thought it would be. Now, I keep working myself up thinking "Todays gonna be the day". But at the last moment, I find that I can't do it. When we talk in class I'm pretty confident, and there are no "awkward moments". But outside of class, I turn into a wreck. Like what the f**k?

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Ask her during class then.

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Originally Posted by Master Chief Castiel 669

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Originally Posted by Wumbo

Wow guys, this was actually a lot more helpful than I thought it would be. Now, I keep working myself up thinking "Todays gonna be the day". But at the last moment, I find that I can't do it. When we talk in class I'm pretty confident, and there are no "awkward moments". But outside of class, I turn into a wreck. Like what the f**k?

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Ask her during class then.

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Well my friends sit between me and her, and they can sometimes be.. belligerent, so to say. I don't want their behavior influencing the outcome.

See about giving her a note. Or if she has a cell and you have a cell, get her number and text her.

Be kind to her and always be there for her. The more you are around her the more she will fall for you. And let her tell your friend that she likes you ;)

That was me^^^

It doesn't matter whose cousin it is, as long as it's not your own, it's just a girl you like. It's not like you're going after an ex's sister or anything like that. That would be a different story. And as for the nervousness thing: Don't worry about it. It may seem tough at first, but it always turns out fine in the end. Just tell her how you feel. If she's a good friend, she'll either say yes or say no but remain friends. If she doesn't remain friends, she wasn't a good friend to begin with. But that's the absolute worst case scenario, and is extremely unlikely. Just go for it and don't worry.
-Mega

Don't worry I am positive she will like you.:) You are such a nice person Wumbo. It will be nothing for you guys to get along and for her to like you :D