That feeling when a bad memory comes back.

There is this girl, we were totally inlove but we were not bf'/gf yet it's like a mutual understanding

We loved each other for 3 fucking years, I promised her that i'll wait for her to finish college so i can legally court her.

Then last year, we had a huge fight, i did everything to make her love me again, but alas, nothing worked, i mailed her, e-mailed her, made my friends wear t-shirt's saying I'm sorry, Made a sign, built a huge wooden statue of her (took 2 months, 8 people working on it) nothing worked.

we never talk to this day, not even eye contact, i always see her every weekdays at school, which breaks my heart more each day.

I still hold my promise that i'll wait, but everyday my dreams are being devoured by my nightmares every night,

One nightmare i remember is when, i saw myself walking up to her (about 50 feet away) when i was close enough (12 feet) i saw her hugging a man, i cried in my dream and in real life ( i woke up.)

I didn't know what to do, i still don't know what to do.

Also, last month (when i had another nightmare) I immediately opened my laptop and messaged her "I'm sorry, can we restart? i can change."

Then she made a post, Not a message, but a post on her wall.

This video: :C

It made me literally cry, 'cause i don't know if it's over or not.


http://beneaththetangles.files.wordp...10/tomoya1.jpg

If a man cries, he isn't manly.
If a man dares to say he cried, he's manly
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I cried!!!

I'm feel sorry for you bro :(

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If a man cries, he isn't manly.
If a man dares to say he cried, he's manly
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I cried!!!

I'm feel sorry for you bro :(

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:C i can't really seem to be happy until i know for sure that i still have even the slightest chance of her loving me again. :miss: :rain:

sometimes you just have to let go. it'll be hard. but you can always learn to love people. that means you may not love someone else as much as her right now, but if you work at it you can love someone else that loves you back as much as you love them.

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sometimes you just have to let go. it'll be hard. but you can always learn to love people. that means you may not love someone else as much as her right now, but if you work at it you can love someone else that loves you back as much as you love them.

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:rain: That's the problem.. i can't love people, i fail at loving people.

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sometimes you just have to let go. it'll be hard. but you can always learn to love people. that means you may not love someone else as much as her right now, but if you work at it you can love someone else that loves you back as much as you love them.

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:rain: That's the problem.. i can't love people, i fail at loving people.

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Bring her flowers, chocolates, expensive things, anything girls want. Then say, "I'm sorry, can you please forgive me?" If she does, you're in business, if she doesn't, I'm out of ideas.
Oh, and you need rain.

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sometimes you just have to let go. it'll be hard. but you can always learn to love people. that means you may not love someone else as much as her right now, but if you work at it you can love someone else that loves you back as much as you love them.

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:rain: That's the problem.. i can't love people, i fail at loving people.

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Bring her flowers, chocolates, expensive things, anything girls want. Then say, "I'm sorry, can you please forgive me?" If she does, you're in business, if she doesn't, I'm out of ideas.
Oh, and you need rain.

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I already bought expensive things and it didn't bucking work :rain:

When it's prom time... i .. i just don't know what to do

I had this same situation,
Its maybe the best to stop trying, if you keep trying they will kinda get sick of it
But thats your choice

And plus,
Youll make yourself even more upset, cause it will probably just wont work
You can better let her go and find someone else
How hard it can be..

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You can better let her go and find someone else
How hard it can be..

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http://zhf45w.bay.livefilestore.com/...RNh7hln3xcSyEg

It's been 4 months since i made this thread

I thought i could move on by then..

I can't

I'm practically crying myself to sleep.
She now loves someone else.. I'm glad that she found someone that makes her happy...
I tried everything, I lost, I lost her..

http://fc01.deviantart.net/fs70/f/20...13ebade80b.jpg

Pic..related. :rain:

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It's been 4 months since i made this thread

I thought i could move on by then..

I can't

I'm practically crying myself to sleep.
She now loves someone else.. I'm glad that she found someone that makes her happy...
I tried everything, I lost, I lost her..

http://fc01.deviantart.net/fs70/f/20...13ebade80b.jpg

Pic..related. :rain:

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OP you have no clue how similar our situations are. Please PM me. In terms of not being over people and such.

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And plus,
Youll make yourself even more upset, cause it will probably just wont work
You can better let her go and find someone else
How hard it can be..

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You don't know much about love, or other emotional attachments, do you?

Clearly not...

You didnt really build a wooden statue, did you?
Anyway, You cant force her to love you again. Its not her fault, and she wont re-love you. It obviously was not meant to be. Sometimes you just gotta let things go. There are many other girls that you will love even more. Trust me.
-BobbyBobber

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You didnt really build a wooden statue, did you?
Anyway, You cant force her to love you again. Its not her fault, and she wont re-love you. It obviously was not meant to be. Sometimes you just gotta let things go. There are many other girls that you will love even more. Trust me.
-BobbyBobber

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Actually, We did, now it's burnt to ashes

I gave up on love bro.

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You didnt really build a wooden statue, did you?
Anyway, You cant force her to love you again. Its not her fault, and she wont re-love you. It obviously was not meant to be. Sometimes you just gotta let things go. There are many other girls that you will love even more. Trust me.
-BobbyBobber

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I agree with this post to a point. You can't force someone to love you again and maybe it wasn't meant to be. But there is no gurantee she wont love him agian and there is no gurantee there is someone he will love more.

I recent survey found that 90% of people feel they settled when they finally got married. I know that if I don't fall in love with someone better than my ex I will not settle for someone else. Gone on a few dates and so far they've all sucked. In fact after each of my two dates with others I dreamed about my ex. And I dont dream often. I've let go of my ex and moved on but shes still the best thing for me and I may try to get her back eventually.

Such is the way of love.

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You didnt really build a wooden statue, did you?
Anyway, You cant force her to love you again. Its not her fault, and she wont re-love you. It obviously was not meant to be. Sometimes you just gotta let things go. There are many other girls that you will love even more. Trust me.
-BobbyBobber

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I agree with this post to a point. You can't force someone to love you again and maybe it wasn't meant to be. But there is no gurantee she wont love him agian and there is no gurantee there is someone he will love more.

I recent survey found that 90% of people feel they settled when they finally got married. I know that if I don't fall in love with someone better than my ex I will not settle for someone else. Gone on a few dates and so far they've all sucked. In fact after each of my two dates with others I dreamed about my ex. And I dont dream often. I've let go of my ex and moved on but shes still the best thing for me and I may try to get her back eventually.

Such is the way of love.

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Yes but its proven that most marriages between two former ex's end in divorce, always get in bad fight, and become terrible parents.
-BobbyBobber

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You didnt really build a wooden statue, did you?
Anyway, You cant force her to love you again. Its not her fault, and she wont re-love you. It obviously was not meant to be. Sometimes you just gotta let things go. There are many other girls that you will love even more. Trust me.
-BobbyBobber

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I agree with this post to a point. You can't force someone to love you again and maybe it wasn't meant to be. But there is no gurantee she wont love him agian and there is no gurantee there is someone he will love more.

I recent survey found that 90% of people feel they settled when they finally got married. I know that if I don't fall in love with someone better than my ex I will not settle for someone else. Gone on a few dates and so far they've all sucked. In fact after each of my two dates with others I dreamed about my ex. And I dont dream often. I've let go of my ex and moved on but shes still the best thing for me and I may try to get her back eventually.

Such is the way of love.

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Yes but its proven that most marriages between two former ex's end in divorce, always get in bad fight, and become terrible parents.
-BobbyBobber

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I find that hard to believe. Most relationships that are successful in my life ended in heart break. They went their separate ways for YEARS and than ended up back together somehow. Let what will be be. If you love it let it go, if it comes back blah blah.

Seems to me thats actually true. In fact a Harvard study shows relationships that go through a break up and get back together are actually STRONGER than those that stay together the whole time, and if they get married they usually are happier.