Bullshit Groundings

I was grounded earlier today. normally it is for a viable reason, like grades or whatnot. But today, my mother asked i clean the house. so i did it to the best of my abilities. However, it was pretty good. She comes home and lets my little brother and his friend mess around, and they screw it all up. Then she decides to inspect the house to see if it is clean. I was stripped of my ipod and xbox because i apparently do absolutely nothing and am a lazy slob.

I think some groundings should be illegal because, say i paid for what i have been grounded from, and they take it. technically speaking, it is robbery. but that has it's bugs.

her constant punishments and yelling at me have caused me to have several mental issues with perfection and authority figures

I need help getting out of this grounding, not because i want my stuff back, but because my pride and dignity have been hurt, and that will not do. Any advice?

She's your mom bro. As a parent, that's her right to make that call.

However, if you feel that it was in the wrong, present your argument in a calm manner.

Dead Pool Castiel

I don't think that's fair. Just tell her that you did a good job, and that it would've been fine if your brother and his friend didn't mess it up, and pass the grounding onto him.

well this is certainly a bad situation for you. odds are you're going to remain grounded. and you may be stuck taking punishments like this up to, and maybe some time after, you turn 18.

but. talk to her. let her know that it was cleaned up before your brother screwed it up. as I said, you may remain grounded. cause that never worked for me.

best of luck to you

I will present my argument later on today. how should i start it?

well remain calm. start off with "can we talk about my grounding?" let her know that you want to present your side.

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Originally Posted by Kain

well remain calm. start off with "can we talk about my grounding?" let her know that you want to present your side.

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I presented my argument. she was being a b*tch and said i wouldn't learn anything. I offered to do manual labor in exchange. She was mad that i presented my points and opposed her. I am probably going to steal my ipod back tomorrow anyway.

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well remain calm. start off with "can we talk about my grounding?" let her know that you want to present your side.

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I presented my argument. she was being a b*tch and said i wouldn't learn anything. I offered to do manual labor in exchange. She was mad that i presented my points and opposed her. I am probably going to steal my ipod back tomorrow anyway.

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Wow. No offense, but it sounds like your mom is stubborn. The fact that she got mad when you presented your argument just makes me shake my head.

And in this case, you just have to put up with it.

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Originally Posted by Kain

well remain calm. start off with "can we talk about my grounding?" let her know that you want to present your side.

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I presented my argument. she was being a b*tch and said i wouldn't learn anything. I offered to do manual labor in exchange. She was mad that i presented my points and opposed her. I am probably going to steal my ipod back tomorrow anyway.

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Wow. No offense, but it sounds like your mom is stubborn. The fact that she got mad when you presented your argument just makes me shake my head.

And in this case, you just have to put up with it.[/quote:1f50umxa]
Yeah... She said i was "giving attitude", when in fact i was speaking in a perfectly neutral tone.

I just tried to smooth things over. She said i was just being selfish and that i wanted my stuff back. Which is about 15% true. she never specified a time length, and when i ask her about it, she says she'll give it back when she thinks i deserve it. I cannot live like this anymore. My relationships with both parents are slipping, and i do not want that.

Toa Tahu the Brickman

just keep being yourself. stay out of trouble. eventually you'll get your things back. just let her cool off.

Have you told her you cleaned it and then your brother and his friend screwed it up, and did you talk to your brother about how he screwed it up and you got in trouble?

Edgar Rice Burroughs

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Have you told her you cleaned it and then your brother and his friend screwed it up, and did you talk to your brother about how he screwed it up and you got in trouble?

Edgar Rice Burroughs

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It is his birthday, so he is untouchable. he is an angel to her at the moment

also probably bad advice, but sometimes its ok to angry, cuz if you just bottle up your anger with people for a long time it will get you EXTREMELY angry all at once at everyone, and thats bad.

still Edgar Rice Burroughs

and on the birthday comment that came up when posting this , well thats fine then, kinda his fault but that is a special day for everyone so I would personally let that one go unless he acts like a jerk about it, and (trying to be helpful and respectful) the fault really seems to lie with your mom. One solution (and its a partially childish partially mean solution but effective) is to just not talk to her. Avoid all contact with her until everything cools down

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also probably bad advice, but sometimes its ok to angry, cuz if you just bottle up your anger with people for a long time it will get you EXTREMELY angry all at once at everyone, and thats bad.

still Edgar Rice Burroughs

and on the birthday comment that came up when posting this , well thats fine then, kinda his fault but that is a special day for everyone so I would personally let that one go unless he acts like a jerk about it, and (trying to be helpful and respectful) the fault really seems to lie with your mom. One solution (and its a partially childish partially mean solution but effective) is to just not talk to her. Avoid all contact with her until everything cools down

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i'll try. imma wait until my siblings go to bed and then i may talk to her about it. penting up emotions is something i do alot, so it will help me out greatly

Glad to help as much as possible

Don't listen to anyone else Toa, I've been grounded for a month, (still grounded) and presenting my argument got me 3 weeks added on, and my XBox and computer gone..

I have been lectured, grounded and punished for the silliest things for years. I have decided that I will just accept it. I have tried to present my argument and my dad says STFU. So I understand man. PM me if you want.
Batman Heisenberg

They are your parents. You have to listen to them till you turn 18. The girl I am dating now she got kicked out when she was 16 because she was being to rebellious. Whatever, now family is the most important thing to her, but she lives alone.

I moved out when I was 18 because my family was ridiculously strict and I myself very liberal. They didn't like that I didn't accept all Christian values, I got grounded a lot and was the black sheep of the family for the stupidest things. Me and my family are close now, and I live my life with my religion the way I see fit.


Point I am trying to make here is you have to listen to them until your able to move out on your own. It sucks but in the end you always end up realizing they were trying to do whats best for you even if it didn't seem like it at the time.

Yeah. My problem with constantly being grounded is that it makes me feel like i can do nothing right. and i plan on moving out asap due to extreme moral differences

Honestly sometimes moving out is the only way to save your relationship with your family. Me and my mom both agree had I stayed any longer we would hate each other.

We just disagreed morally on every issue. Make sure you can support yourself before leaving.

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Honestly sometimes moving out is the only way to save your relationship with your family. Me and my mom both agree had I stayed any longer we would hate each other.

We just disagreed morally on every issue. Make sure you can support yourself before leaving.

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Can't move out for at least another year

It has gotten to the point where i think i need help.

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It has gotten to the point where i think i need help.

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Meh. She was a hipocrit and said yesterday that if i showed a good attitude and i cleaned the house, i could have my stuff back. I did that, showed her, she was happy. But then she said" i feel that you wont be like this once i give your stuff back, so if you are good tomorrow, i will give them back.

Feel free to pm me for revenge ideas. I'm thinking of signing her up for a ridiculous amount of spam emails.

put sticky notes all over her car

OR (still Edgar lol)
put a rubber snake or something on her face while shes sleeping
replace toilet paper with duck tape
cord lock all your scissors together
give her donuts filled with mayonaisse
the possibilities are endless

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put sticky notes all over her car

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I have none, unfortunately

Yes play practical jokes on her that will be the way to show her how mature you are and that you desrve your things back o.O

Meh... I am gonna just take it back. My siblings got their crap back