Girlfriend Help

So I've been having a bit of trouble. My girlfriend has been really loco lately. Let's start with today.

On facebook, I specifically glazed over a picture because I knew liking it would offend her. This morning, she gets mad at me for liking this picture, which I have absolutely no idea how it happened. She won't take it that it was a complete accident, which it was. This leads her to begin to rant about some things. Let me quote:

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Originally Posted by She

Why must you recite erb all the time, even at inappropriate times? Why must you be allowed to say stupid things and I can't mess with you? Why must you act so disinterested in English? Why must you act like everything is fine when it's not? Why is it that you dont believe my answers?Why must you act like your smarter than me? Why won't you do more than hold hands? Why dont you talk about your feelings more? Why must our conversations be about the stuff you like? Why is it our conversations are so short ?

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And there she goes, blowing everything out of proportion. I don't do things at "inappropriate times," force her to do things or tell her things, etc. I'm not disinterested in English, my teacher knows that I listen even if I am tired at times. I hide my feelings for the best of everyone and so no one worries about me, expect for specific times. I want to make sure that I'm doing things right, and that would be the case for anyone else. I don't, just part of the previous one. I don't feel a need to do anything much else, but that's probably just a mix of my personality and religious beliefs. They don't must be anything, and I have no idea.

She's been like this lately, high-maintenance and stuff. There's still affection on her end and on my end, but I'm not 100% happy with someone who gets so easily offended. I still want to be with her but I really don't know what to do about things like this. Things like this have happened where she's gone overboard like this. This is my first girlfriend, and I feel like I might have to break up in the future, which I dread and yet kind of sorta want.

These things she's getting mad about are all either isolated incidents that she's complaining about that really aren't a big deal or personality quirks that also aren't big deals and yet aren't my fault. As I've said before to you all and her:

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Originally Posted by I

I just don't have real experience having real friends

I had friends as a little kid.
And then I had essentially no "real" friends from 4th to the opening of 9th grade.
I missed out on a lot.

Everyone at my school tolerated or hated me because I was different, and I put up with it

I fit in with no one.

I was bullied by some people, and the teachers at my school really didn't give much of a fucking shit about what happened. They yelled at the kids but never enforced it. I left 8th grade hating the guts of everyone but two people in my graduating class. Keep in mind that I went to a fucking Catholic school.

So I missed out on a lot of friendships. There was no one I could really talk about things I enjoyed until I met All of my current friends.

And I don't think about it much but when I do I realized that a lot of my life was shit as much as I try to believe that it.

I have friends now, but my previous life was horrible and that means I suck at friends and life more than mostly everyone in my school. Couple that with the fact that I'm a 1.5 years younger than everyone in my class. I skipped a grade and have a summer birthday, so I'm 14 in 10th grade.

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So I'm still working on being a good friend in general, let alone a good boyfriend, because after 2 years, there's still a lot I'm missing and have missed. There's not that big of an age difference between me, my friends, and her, and I actually act a LOT more maturely than a lot of the seniors I know.

So what do I do? If I break up with her, I'm afraid she might get overly depressed and even consider suicide, because she's volatile in that way. I still have feelings for her, but I don't know what to do, and I don't want us to keep arguing over these things she's complaining about which are really just her being intolerant of myself, because I've been tolerant of her quirks and respect them. It sometimes doesn't seem like she does, though.

So I don't know what to do. If you need clarification, feel free to ask, but I really need some advice right now.

Um, she could be either on her period, or turned into a bitch, which could have been caused by her friends, or she subconciously wants to break up.


If she keeps going on like this, I'd say dump her.

What she said was the embodiment of 1) Jealously and/or 2) Possessiveness.

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Originally Posted by Wumbo

Um, she could be either on her period, or turned into a b***h, which could have been caused by her friends, or she subconciously wants to break up.


If she keeps going on like this, I'd say dump her.

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This has gone on for a while, (little complaints like this) so it's not the period. Also, as I said, there's definitely feelings on both ends. Also, as I said at the end,

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If I break up with her, I'm afraid she might get overly depressed and even consider suicide, because she's volatile in that way.

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She's considered it in her past, and I don't want it to happen at all. That's the dilemma. I'm willing to stick it out for a little while longer.

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Originally Posted by LAWLzoR

What she said was the embodiment of 1) Jealously and/or 2) Possessiveness.

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And let it be known that I have rarely ever complained about her. The only things I can think of are saying that I don't like paying monthly/yearly for online games (She plays Pony Island) and that I don't like her shoving paper into my shirt to get me to "touch her more" because I really don't need to touch that much in general. i hold her hand. I've spent time with her. I don't see any way else that it's "necessary" to "touch her" without being grabby or something

I'm sorry to say it, but I think you need to dump her.

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What she said was the embodiment of 1) Jealously and/or 2) Possessiveness.

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And let it be known that I have rarely ever complained about her. The only things I can think of are saying that I don't like paying monthly/yearly for online games (She plays Pony Island) and that I don't like her shoving paper into my shirt to get me to "touch her more" because I really don't need to touch that much in general. i hold her hand. I've spent time with her. I don't see any way else that it's "necessary" to "touch her" without being grabby or something

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If you've rarely complained about her, then that means you're either happy or tolerant. Both are good.

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What she said was the embodiment of 1) Jealously and/or 2) Possessiveness.

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And let it be known that I have rarely ever complained about her. The only things I can think of are saying that I don't like paying monthly/yearly for online games (She plays Pony Island) and that I don't like her shoving paper into my shirt to get me to "touch her more" because I really don't need to touch that much in general. i hold her hand. I've spent time with her. I don't see any way else that it's "necessary" to "touch her" without being grabby or something

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If you've rarely complained about her, then that means you're either happy or tolerant. Both are good.

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I am tolerant. Quite tolerant, always, against everyone. I'm happy with everything but what I've complained about today.

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Originally Posted by LAWLzoR

What she said was the embodiment of 1) Jealously and/or 2) Possessiveness.

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And let it be known that I have rarely ever complained about her. The only things I can think of are saying that I don't like paying monthly/yearly for online games (She plays Pony Island) and that I don't like her shoving paper into my shirt to get me to "touch her more" because I really don't need to touch that much in general. i hold her hand. I've spent time with her. I don't see any way else that it's "necessary" to "touch her" without being grabby or something

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If you've rarely complained about her, then that means you're either happy or tolerant. Both are good.

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I am tolerant. Quite tolerant, always, against everyone. I'm happy with everything but what I've complained about today.

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If you're happy/okay with everything but this incident, then I see no reason to dump her. Again this is ultimately your decision. Don't let anyone else make this decision for you.

Having just gotten back on track with my GF, I'll tell you that you need to sit her down and hash everything out. Lay it out on the table. Tell her how you feel and her vise versa. It's amazing at how much talking things out can fix things.